5 Ways to tell if he is the right one for you.
- Ask your parents and closest friends.
If he makes time to get to know your family and friends, they will get to know him as well. Family and friends are more likely to see through any red lights that you cannot see because, well... Love is blind! Your parents and closest friends know you the best, and know what you deserve and what you need in your life. If he avoids spending time with the people you love, that is already a bad sign.
2. Compare your morals and values.
This may take time because you need to get to know them before you really know their morals and values. But this is really important because when he believes something that you don’t and it’s something close to your heart, it will cause problems further along. You are either going to have to compromise or one of you is going to be unhappy every time it comes up. Don’t confuse habits that irritate you with the morals and values of that person.
3. Look at his actions.
Does he treat you the same when he is with his family and friends and when you two are alone? Does certain behavior shy away when he is with his group of people? For example, he doesn’t want to hug you in front of his friends or he doesn’t want to hold hands in front of his parents. This can mean that he is hiding your relationship from the people closest to him — meaning the people he trusts the most, don't even know about your relationship. Another thing, how does he treat his mother and sister? Those relationships should be the closest representation of how he will treat you and how he talks about you behind your back.
4. Trust
Is he constantly looking through your phone, personal belongings, questioning you going out with friends, or even makes you avoid friends to spend time with him? Spending time with your loved one is important, but not at the cost of losing friends. Look at his reasons why he doesn’t like your friends, if they are a bad influence and other people agree — he might be on to something. But if they are good friends that aren’t toxic or using you, he might only want you for himself and that can cause problems when you have to give up all of your friends for him. Especially if he hangs out with his friends all the time.
5. Respect and love
Does he listen to you and your opinions? Are you allowed to grow and flourish in the relationship or does he degrade your self-esteem? Respect and comfort are really important for a long-term relationship. You need to be able to communicate in a respectful, calm, and mature environment with each other to avoid arguments when you two don’t understand each other or disagree with one another. You need to be able to be vulnerable around him without the fear of judgment, being ignored, or made fun of for it.
BONUS: His reaction to your dream.
One of the quickest ways to see if he is right for you is his reaction to your dreams and goals. If he constantly makes fun of them, discards your dreams, or even doesn’t care about them — you might want to reconsider beginning/continuing the relationship. You as a couple should build on each other’s dreams and motivate each other to reach and work towards your goal. Your partner should help you reach your goals and live out your dreams.